Nicky Barnes

Art by Toby I do not (yet) identify as asexual. However, the more I learn about the experiences of people who do, the more I wonder if there is a place on that spectrum where I might feel more seen and understood than among confidently allosexual people. Throughout my teen years, I attributed my lack of interest in boys, in conventionally attractive celebrities, in porn, and in sex to my adherence to a strictly puritanical religion and a history of adverse experiences with physical touch.